Wednesday, 17 May 2017

HOW TO STAY CHILLED WHEN PLANNING A WEDDING



Hi lovelies! It feels like it's been forever! As those of you who follow me on  twitter or instagram will know, I've recently moved house so what with that and planning our wedding, my poor little blog has taken a bit of a back-seat lately! With that in mind though, I wanted to come back with a wedding themed blog post! Our big day is creeping up so fast and I wanted to get a few more posts

Make a plan as early as possible and get the big stuff done ASAP.
For me, the most important things were the venue, the dress, the bridesmaids, the photographer, the caterer, the flowers and the registrar. I got 6/7 of these done within the first 5 months of planning. We had the venue booked a year in advance, I chose the dress 11 months in advance, the bridesmaids were asked 13 months in advance and their dresses were bought 8 months in advance. The photographer was chosen around 10 months before and booked at the same time. The caterer, accommodation and DJ all came with the venue which was super easy and we made sure booking the registrar was the first thing we did after booking the venue. The flowers I left a little later but 6/7 ain't bad! We've now go around 2 and a half months to go and we're both really quite cam about how it's all going so far. Booking these bigger things before meant we had time to focus on the small details that will make our day truly ours.

Keep the Wedding Party simple.
By this I don't mean do an 'eeny, meeny, miny, mo' between your girlfriends to pick just the one Bridemaid, but instead, pick those who will help you keep things simple. Darren had two best men and I have six Bridemaids, so we weren't about keeping our numbers down in that sense, but instead, we picked people who we knew would be easy going and fun. To put it bluntly, if your old friend from school is a bit of a nightmare, don't pick her as Maid of Honour. While it can be difficult leaving people out, it is your day and you shouldn't feel pressured to have anybody in it that will take over or just be a general pain in the butt! My girls have been ridiculously helpful, but only when asked or required, no one's stepped on my toes or tried to make it about them and it's made my life so much easier!

Get the invites out and RSVPs back early.
We sent our invites back in January for our wedding this August and set the RSVP 'deadline' (loosely) for the end of March, along with menu selections, which meant we had a pretty much final list of everyone that was coming and what they were eating fairly early on. So now, with around two and half months to go, we're totally clear on who is and isn't coming and what to tell our caterer. Things like this are a big deal, so giving yourself plenty of time to sort this out and giving your guests plent of notice will save a lot of stress on the run up to your big day. Side note, it's also important to keep your invites as clear as possible, you definitely don't want dozens of 'so, where is your venue?' texts to respond to!

Have a budget and stick to it.
Cannot. Stress. Enough. This was probably one of the first things we though of when we started planning. It's a boring one and thinking about the money side of weddings is a bit daunting, but if you know where you stand with it in the beginning and keep to your budget. If you save on one aspect, you can perhaps spend more on another, but for me at least, keeping to our budget has been a big deal. Planning a wedding is a lot of fun and worrying about money would put a huge dampener on it for me. Whether your budget is very modest or super lavish, keeping to it will prevent any nasty surprises.

Don't be swayed by others opinions and don't get competitive.
It can be easy to compare your day to others, or get caught up in people telling you about this amazing thing at this incredible wedding they went to. It's important to remember that it's your day with the person you love and everything you do should be about the two of you and certainly not to compete with anyone else. Odds are,there'll be things at your amazing wedding that people will tell their friends about afterwards, so don't worry too much if your colleague's sister's best friend had an ice sculpture of her and her other half (not a genuine example might I add), your little touches are what makes your day your own, sometimes it's not the worst idea to step away from Pinterest and think about  you and your husband or wife to be and what suits the two of you.

Try not to let the Wedding take over your life!
It's so exciting planning a Wedding, but running up to ours, we've made sure not to make every day/ week/ month all about the wedding. Sure, we talk about it a lot, people regularly ask about it, but if I'd spent every second of this year leading up to the Wedding stressing about it, I feel as though the day will feel more like end game than the start of something even more exciting than the day itself! When it comes down to it, a Wedding is simply a celebration with all your favourite people of the beginning of the rest of your lives together, treating it like the last hurdle for me completely contradicts the meaning of the entire process. So, my best advice to Brides to be is to enjoy the planning, cherish every second, but don't lose sight of the reason you're getting married in the first place. The day itself is truly just the beginning and you'll have so much more to look forward to afterwards. Embrace it, enjoy it and have fun!

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