Thursday, 13 July 2017

4 WEEKS TO GO, WHAT I'VE LEARNED WHILE PLANNING A WEDDING


Hi lovelies! I can't believe I'm writing this post, it feels so soon! It's been more than a year since my fiance Darren and I got engaged and in 4 weeks, we will officially be Husband and Wife! It's been a whirlwind of a year, we moved twice, both started new careers and all the while planned a Wedding! It's been a mixture of emotions, mostly all consuming excitement but despite being mostly pretty chilled about everything, Wedding planning has had its stressful moments for sure! So, I thought I'd share with you all a few of the things that I've learned, or have surprised me along the way. I'll throw in some tips here and there so if you're a Bride to be, this may or may not be helpful for you! And if you're a Wedding guest, Bridesmaid, MOH etc, listen up too as this may be useful for you!

I'm really bad at saying no.
Something rather frustrating that I've learnt throughout the entire process is that I'm just terrible at saying no to people and probably too worried about upsetting people. Example, I was at first, talked into having a style of wedding ring that I really didn't like and despite my own doubts, pushed into getting a smaller size by the pushy shop assistant, said ring turned up, too small and looking very old fashioned and 'blah' next to my engagement ring. After having a bit of a cry about it, Darren took me out, the granny ring was returned and we replaced it with a much more modern, much more me ring, which is exactly what I should've done in the first place. Do not be pushed into decisions you're not 100% sure on, even by the 'experts' (bitch was no expert). 

You need to remember who the day is about.
This massively follows on from my last point. By nature, I'm not much of a worrier. I'm more of an act now, think later type of person. Turns out when it comes to wedding planning, that's not true. I've worried about every friggin' detail. People have said and done things that I've massively disagreed with along the way and at first, I wouldn't say anything through fear of upsetting someone, however your day is just that your day. No one is more important than you and your partner, so when someone pushes their ideas and opinions that you don't like, it really isn't so bad having to remind them who's day it is. I've been so afraid of coming across like a Bridezilla, but actually, we're only planning on doing this day once and we're going to do it our way! Your guests should absolutely respect that too. For the most part, ours have done and while there have been wobbles along the way, we've always gotten through it by reminding ourselves what the day is ultimately about.


Planning the big stuff in advance really does make life easier.
We booked our Venue, Caterer, DJ, Photographer and Registrar fairly early, which meant we could plan the finer details around the bigger stuff. There were so many things along the way, such as the flowers, the shoes, the colour scheme, the style of invites etc, that were pretty dependant on the vibe of the venue we went for, so having that down from the offset made those decisions a fair bit easier. I'd definitely recommend booking the Venue before anything else personally. You don't want to buy a bunch of boho bridesmaids dresses only to fall in love with a super modern, grand hotel. Side note, I also wouldn't get too stuck on the idea of a certain theme (unless you're certain of course!), once you fall in love with a place, sometimes the rest will just fall into place around it.


It goes by so fast.
With all that's happened this year, our Wedding day has honestly come around so quickly. I'm grateful in a way, because we never really went through the 'bored of waiting, what do we do now?' phase that I've heard a lot of other people talk about. That said though, when we booked our venue a year ago, I had no idea just how quickly the day was going to come around, it felt like a lifetime away! Now, while pretty much everything is in place and we're both seriously excited for the big day, I feel like these last few weeks are slipping away so quickly and I almost don't want them to end! I'm certain that our Wedding day will be the best day of our lives, but with all its ups and downs, I'd say planning the Wedding has been one of the best times of our lives together and I really will be quite sad when it's all over!

That's all I have for now, I'll try to fit in a few more wedding themed posts between now and the big day. We've got a pre-wedding shoot this weekend, so perhaps I'll share that with you all in the very near future!

Let me know what you thought of this post and if you'd like to see more. Are you getting Married or attending a Wedding this summer? I'd love to know!

Chloe x


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